You’ve probably pulled up to a tollbooth and admired the way the attendant smiled and said thank you (maybe not quite as much in Massachusetts). Then, at the next toll the attendant looks like he hates you. In the same day we can meet miserable downers and people that inspire us. Why is there such a difference?
In most cases, the people achieving their goals and dreams are positive, and the “victims” who have lost their vision are negative. Do you think that there is some correlation here to IQ, work ethic or tenacity? Perhaps. But have you considered that there may be a common denominator?
That common denominator is each person’s thinking. We are so focused on changing our results that we sometimes forget that our results are simply a manifestation of our behaviors. Now think about your behaviors: they are formed by your thinking.
So here you have the answer: change your thinking to change your behavior to change your results. Controlling for the “just a bad day” case, you would probably be somewhat confident that if we interviewed the friendly person at the first toll, his thinking would be quite different from the attendant at the second stop.
Keeping your eye on the prize is great, but if you are not paying attention to your thinking, you may end up indefinitely admiring your prize from afar instead of achieving it.
To come: how to improve your thinking process.